Striving
for Perfection
RABBI MENACHUM RUDMAN
I WAS NOT PERSONALLY privileged to be acquainted
with Nancy, as we moved to Eretz Yisroel when she was still quite
young, some thirty-one years ago. However from the heartfelt
writings that her family has shared with me, I’ve gathered
a pretty clear idea of who she was.
I see this remarkable woman as a person possessing
two extraordinary virtues which, in my opinion, are both quite
rare. One falls
into the sphere of bein adam la’Mokom (areas touching on
the relationship an individual has with G-d), while the other
belongs to the bein adam l’chaveiro (interpersonal relationship)
category. I will begin with the first relationship.
Nancy lived in the Big City, with all of its allures
at her fingertips. She had a good number of acquaintances from
all backgrounds—Jewish
and non-Jewish, religious Jews and irreligious. She spent considerable
periods of time associating with them under enjoyable and friendly
circumstances.
She was admired and extremely popular among the
people she knew. Her sociable and outgoing nature, her positive
and happy disposition,
and her sensitivity towards others’ needs and feelings
made her well-liked among many who did not have an understanding,
an interest, or even an appreciation for Jewish law and the Torah
way of life.
In his Book of Proverbs (Mishlei 27:19), King Solomon
states, “As
water reflects the type of face you make, so, too, is one person’s
heart to another.” In the positive sense, this means that
you take a liking to those who like you. The Rambam (Hilchos
Dayos 6) asserts that it is human nature to be influenced in
one’s actions and ways of thinking by his companions and
friends, and to conduct himself like his fellow countrymen.
Nancy’s friendship with a wide range of people
was liable to raise difficult challenges regarding her own commitment
to
religious values, as it would for even the most steadfast individual.
The challenge was compounded by the lifestyle she chose, the
schedule she kept, and the distant places she loved to visit,
all of which created difficulties in keeping Shabbos, the laws
of kashrus, davening, and other Torah observances.
Nancy rose to the challenge. Her strong inner commitment
to Judaism defied all the rules of human nature, arousing even
greater respect
in those who witnessed her devout adherence to the Torah despite
all of the difficulties. In this, she was a true Makadeshes
Hashem (sanctifier of G-d’s name).
At the end of Parashas Behar, we read about an
individual who, out of poverty, sells himself as a slave to an
idolater. Hashem tells him, “The Jews are my servants, I am your G-d.” And
the verse continues, “Do not serve idolatry: observe my
Sabbath, and fear my Holy Place, [for] I am G-d.”
Rashi explains that this slave, over the course
of time, might think to himself, “My master worships idols,
works on Shabbos, and so forth, why shouldn’t I?” Therefore,
G-d cautions him not to succumb to this kind of thinking. He
lets him know
that despite being a slave, G-d has not abandoned him. The slave—indeed,
any individual—is just as close to Hashem as is any other
Jew.
The verse ends, “Keep my Shabbos and honor
and fear my Holy Place.” The Ramban explains that these
two injunctions include all of the mitzvos because they provide
the Jew with
an awareness of G-d’s presence. In trying situations, he
is told to keep these mitzvos; the rest will naturally fall in
line.
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